A disgruntled woman has sought the advice and opinions of others after claiming her partner of 10 years bought a house behind her back.
Describing him as "sneaky and dishonest", the mum-of-three took to Mumsnet and said after a decade together, she had originally given up on the idea of them owning their own home after realising "he was never going to commit". That all changed, however, after she discovered he had in fact bought a property without telling her - later revealing he didn't want to "put her through the stress of the buying process".
"I was a single mother of three when I met him and lived in a Johnnie Johnson house (housing association)," she began in a lengthy post. "DP [dear partner] moved in with me pretty much instantly. I always wanted to own my own home but being single with three kids didn’t leave me much room money wise and never seemed possible."
The woman continued, explaining she believed the house was all "part of a plan" for him to get away from her after he had simply "used" her as a place to live until he could find somewhere of his own. Following a confrontation, she said she still doesn't believe him, however, because he is the only name listed on the documents.
"This would not be our house it would be his," she cursed. "He wants me to come but then I would just be living in his house. I would have to give up the housing that I have now which is a three bedroom in a nice area and move into his house. I am very very hurt and feel so betrayed that he has done this behind my back."
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She closed: "I can’t afford to live on my own anymore. My two youngest still live with me so I would Aldo be uprooting them from their home, to his. His income pays for a lot of bills so if I tell him I’m not moving in, I honestly don’t know how I’ll afford to live. But I don’t feel like I can give up all that I have to move in with him when he’s been so sneaky and dishonest. I am really feeling heartbroken."
Mumsnet users told the woman her partner's actions were a 'huge red flag' (Getty Images)As is commonplace on Mumsnet, the woman then asked others whether or not they felt she was being unreasonable - and she was met with an overwhelming response. "Huge red flag - even if you did move in there’s no guarantee he’d put you in the deeds by which time it’s too late because you’ve given up your house," one person explained. "And how would the financials work - he’s not going to hand over half his house if you split up. The situation is far too controlling and I’d be worried about my financial vulnerability."
Another agreed: "So he’s used money he should have given you for bills and used it to buy himself a house. He is not trustworthy - I would stay put and split up with him. See if you can claim Universal Credit as that should help with the rent. Also claim for single council tax once he’s gone."
A third advised: "Sounds like he's used you OP, lived with you paying the bare minimum while buying himself a house that he didn't even tell you about. I wonder if he'd have told you if you hadn't found out, and if he actually wants you to live with him."
The woman later returned to the post, meanwhile, confessing after reading the responses, she's convinced ending things is the right way to go. "It’s what I thought anyway, because I do want to end it now," she wrote. "I just worry about the financials but I will have a look what I’m entitled to and hope it’s enough. I can’t believe he’s been with me for 10 whole years and thinks so little of me that he’s done this."
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