A disgruntled woman has appealed for the advice of others in dealing with her boyfriend working seven days a week.
The damsel in distress took to Mumsnet, where she told the forum her partner of two years' entire time was being taken by his new business venture. "Would you stay with a boyfriend that worked seven days a week?" she asked, before explaining "he claims he’ll take one day off per week when the business opens".
She continued: "When we met he had an established business... but still worked seven days a week, taking time off for special occasions, my birthday and Christmas. Thought about asking him if he’d get married as I do love him very much, he’s otherwise an excellent partner (when he’s here) and I would feel better knowing he was working on our future."
The boyfriend claims he'll switch to six days a week once his new business has been established (Getty Images/iStockphoto)The woman went on to add she'd had reassurances that his desire to work was for their own good, and she had "no reason to disbelieve" him. However, she added: "I suppose it would be nice to have that commitment/something solid. It’s an awful lot to take on when you're 'just' a girlfriend."
After asking if others felt she was being unreasonable, scores of other women responded, telling her they wouldn't put up with such behaviour. "No way would this be the life for me," one person declared. "Do you want children? If so, would you be happy to raise them practically alone? You say he's working on your future but when is the end date? When he retires?"
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Another explained it wasn't healthy for the boyfriend - or indeed, their relationship - for him to be working such long hours. There needs to be some sort of limit," the woman said. "I don’t think someone working seven days a week is conducive to a healthy relationship in my opinion. He needs to draw a line, and balance building a business with spending time with you.
She continued: "I wouldn’t even consider marriage under the current circumstances, and I think it’s somewhat foolish to consider that marrying would cement that commitment. The relationship parameters need to be right now."
While a third urged: "Please don't marry a man to try and change him or how he leads his life. Please don't have kids with a man to try and change him or how he leads his life. Please marry a man and have kids with a man you are already happy with how he leads his life, that he shows you who he is, and you love that man."
The woman later returned to the post, explaining that having read all the responses, she was going to address the matter directly.
Some sympathised with the man, however, with one adding: "Personally I wouldn’t mind doing the majority myself but I appreciate it would be pretty tough. With all due respect unless you've been there you don't know how you'd feel."
And a second said: "It’s ridiculously hard when you set up a new business. Most businesses fail with in the first two years so he is still in the 'bunker down and get it established' phase."
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