22 June 2024 , 16:10
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A newlywed has been left ‘fuming’ by one guest’s tardy arrival at her wedding alongside an equally late gift, sent days after her wedding and without a card.
After receiving the money transfer gift of £78, which was dubbed an 'afterthought' by the newlywed, the friend was blasted by the bride, who expressed her ‘disappointment,’ before promptly returning the money. The ‘blindsided’ guest then took to Reddit to showcase the ‘enraged’ exchange following the nuptials, to see what others thought of the bride’s 'bold' behaviour.
The text exchange started: “Hey so I got your £78 ($100) gift a couple of days after the wedding and honestly... kinda shocked and bummed about it. Feels a bit disrespectful,” the bride wrote.
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She continued: “Not only were you late to my ceremony, but the absence of a card added to it. Your recent birthday invite asked for $225 each and I would've done it without a second thought if I wasn’t getting married.”
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She went on to say: “Receiving just £78 ($100) for MY WEDDING felt like an afterthought and a bit tactless. I returned the money because keeping it felt more hurtful than the initial disappointment. I suggest taking a hard look at your relationships. If this is how you value friendships, it's genuinely disheartening.”
After reading the message, the guest admitted she was confused and thought she had done nothing wrong, taking to Reddit to reveal she had travelled internationally to attend the wedding. She responded by saying: “Hi, I'm so sorry you feel that way, it was not my intention at all! As a single person who does not drink, I've always given this amount as a wedding gift to my friends, in addition to shower gifts. "
The enraged bride sent the gift back"Additionally, I truly thought the money transfer was the preferred method since it was what was on the registry when I checked.” She continued: “I arranged my international travel specifically so that I could be in town for your wedding, as originally, I was not going to be.”
After asking readers for their reaction to the wedding woe, she was met with mixed emotions as to who was in the wrong, with one reader blaming both parties: “Etiquette allows wedding gifts up to the first year of marriage. Sending a Venmo (an American mobile payment service) without a card is tacky. Showing up late to a wedding is crass. Sending the Venmo back with a text is rude."
Another reader agreed saying “You are all ill-mannered and self-centred," while another reader wrote. “This could have been resolved by a bit more grace on both sides – if you had given a card and apologised promptly for being late, and if she had enough grace to let the amount and the lateness go.”
A third reader reasoned: “If you’re friends, you talk through these hurt feelings and apologise to move past it. It’s normal to disagree with friends occasionally – it matters how we address and work through it.”