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A man has sparked a huge debate online after only inviting "three people" to his intimate wedding.
The groom-to-be has admitted that his decision to have a low-key ceremony has caused a "fight" among his friends - but he's refusing to change his decision.
Taking to popular forum site Reddit, the man claims that the best man - who is one of the attendees - is refusing to attend unless his partner is added to the guest list.
In the post, the anonymous user explained: "My fiancée and I want to get married this year. We both don't like traditional weddings and don't like being the centre of attention. We want to get married primarily for us because we love each other - not for other people."
The best man is refusing to attend the wedding unless his partner is invited (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)The man went on: "If we had to have a traditional wedding with a lot of people, we would probably rather not get married. Therefore, we have decided that each of us will invite only one person (best man and maid of honour). For my fiancée, this is 'Maria'; for me, 'Frederik'.
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"'Kim', a good friend of the bride, is also coming because she takes pictures and we both know her well. So in total, there would be five people (bride, groom, best man, maid of honour, and the friend who takes the photos). That's it.
"Now Frederik's partner Roger complains that he is not invited. There was a fight between him and my best man Frederik because of that. Roger says that he would not go to a wedding to which Frederik is not invited and he expects the same from his partner.
"However, we definitely don't want any other people there and have put a lot of thought into choosing three people. Not even our families are invited after all. I told Roger that we are not willing to change our plan and invite him."
Seeking advice, the groom-to-be questioned: "Am I the a**hole?"
Since sharing the post online, the man's thread has raked in over 450 comments to date - where people were torn over whether the man was being unreasonable.
Someone said: "Your wedding, your rules."
A second person wrote: "Not the a**hole. If you were having a normal wedding it would be rude not to invite his partner but this is obviously an exception. He’s being ridiculous."
On the other hand, a different user claimed: "Some rules are going to predictably and obviously cause permanent resentment. If you're cool with that, go for it, but don’t whinge about the results."
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