Cooking for someone is one of the sweetest things that you can do - it really shows someone that you love them. Receiving compliments on your handiwork also makes you beam with pride, but when someone criticises something that you've made for them, it can feel soul-destroying - especially when you've made such an effort.
One man took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to say that he told his daughter that her homemade pizza 'sucks', and as a result, she was 'extremely upset and she went to her room'.
He was confused, however, defending his honesty as he didn't want to be 'stuck eating terrible pizza every Sunday'.
The daughter was devastated after her dad criticised her food (Stock Image) (Getty Images/PhotoAlto)He wrote: "Every Sunday we have a family dinner and my wife is the one that cooks. But last Sunday our daughter asked if she could make us a homemade pizza because she found some "awesome" recipe online.
"We agreed. But her pizza was absolutely horrible. But everyone (my wife and my other kids) complemented her and when she asked me if I liked it I told her that it sucks.
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"This made her extremely upset and she went to her room. And everyone at the table looked at me like I was an a**hole but I told them that if I complimented her pizza she'd just keep making it and the last thing I want is to be stuck eating a terrible pizza every Sunday. But no one seemed to agree with me and they all claim I ruined the family dinner. Am I the a**hole in this situation?"
People were quick to slam the dad for being so cruel to his daughter, saying that there were multiple other ways to go about the situation - even if he hadn't enjoyed the food.
One wrote: "You could have politely given her constructive feedback about what it was specifically you didn't like. She's still young. She's still learning. You had to go be an a**hole about it and probably discouraged her completely....now she'll be fearful to try again."
Another parent gave a first-hand account of how they'd given their son constructive feedback, saying: "My son's first time making cookies he used 1.5 cups of baking soda instead of 1.5 teaspoons. He was upset at first but we had a good laugh threw them away and made a new batch.
"I told him he didn't fail at cookies he learned a new way not to make them. I guarantee he'll never make that mistake a second time so we chalked it up to a learning experience.
"There's a right way and a wrong way to handle failures and the original poster took the wrong way. Instead of teaching her to get back up when she falls, he's teaching her to stay in the dirt."
Someone commented: "I have young kids. I would have approached this like, 'Wow! You did this yourself! That's amazing! You're going to be a chef in no time. Boy, this is crunchy, did you do something different? Oh? I guess next time you know to cook it a few minutes shorter! That's the great thing about cooking, it's all about adjusting and learning.'
"Like, help the kids to see what might not be quite right. They'll learn from it, and you don't beat their self-esteem into dust."
How would you have approached this situation? Let us know in the comments.
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