A mum was left in tears at her gender reveal when she discovered she would be having a third son - as she dreamed of having a 'mini me' daughter to 'dress up'. Nicole Smith and her fiancé Ryan were having an intimate gender reveal with a couple of close friends using coloured cupcakes when she burst into tears upon realising she would be having another little boy.
The 29-year-old had undergone seven IVF miscarriages but admits she had been hoping to have a little girl to balance out the all-boys household. The mum-of-two can be seen in pictures biting into the cupcake with her partner before realising the inside is blue and bursting into tears.
While she adores her three-year-old son and nine-year-old stepson, she'd been envisioning having a girl whom she could share “dresses, bows, and hairstyles” with rather than “playing in the dirt”. Nicole, who works as a case manager for early intervention with children with disabilities, says she thinks her emotions were just running high as her tears soon turned to happy crying.
After sharing the clip on TikTok, the mum claims she got "a lot of negative comments telling her she's ungrateful", which she admits was "hurtful". She says she wouldn't change being a "boy mom" for the world and that she is the "furthest thing from ungrateful".
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(Kennedy News and Media)Nicole, from Dover, Delaware, US, said: "I have a son and a stepson and I was really hoping for a little girl of my own to have. I had put in my head that we were going to have a little girl so once I bit into the cupcake I was a little surprised. Initially, I was hoping to see some pink in there.
"I had an idea that I would be able to have a little girl and share all the dresses and the bows and hairstyles with. Right now, I love playing in the dirt but I was hoping for a little girl to balance out the household. I think it was that dream that I had in my head and that I'd made up that I was going to have a little mini-me. I kind of realised that wasn't going to happen anymore. I got a little upset, emotions are obviously high.
"This is my last child that I'm having because I have a genetic condition and I'm not able to have any more children after this. I've had seven IVF miscarriages before this one and this is the furthest we've gotten. Once I started getting really upset, I was more upset because I was happy.
"I'm more than happy and excited now to have another boy and be a boy mom forever, it just caught me a little off guard. I do love being a boy mom. I was clearly made to have a bunch of boys. I love being a boy mom but it was just bittersweet that I wasn't going to have a little girl to dress up with me."
Nicole says the “bittersweet” moment “caught her off guard”, but she soon found herself laughing about it and now thinks she may not have even been able to handle having a little girl. Nicole, whose baby is due in July, said: "Once we were done with the pictures we were just laughing.
"We were realising like 'why did we ever think we would have a girl? We have a bunch of boys'. It may not have been exactly what we were hoping for but I can't believe we made it this far and that we are going to have another baby. It made it all a bit more real to know he had a gender because we haven't got this far in years.
"The next day, it really hit me that I'm 100% made to be a boy mom and I probably don't want to take on all the things that come with being a woman. I felt happy and it's just settling in that this is what our future will be."
Nicole organised the photoshoot with a couple of close friends and her best friend made the cupcakes specially for the occasion. The mum posted the pictures online for friends and family to see but didn't expect the video to go viral, gaining more than 3 million views.
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(Kennedy News and Media)Nicole posted it online with the caption: "Hey I just wanted one girl. Here's to being surrounded by four boys for the rest of my existence. P.S. I am so happy to have my boys, it just threw me off a little."
Despite receiving some 'hurtful' comments which have accused her of being “ungrateful”, many other mums reached out in support and she states she “wouldn't change anything for the world”. Nicole said: "I wasn't expecting that to go viral because I'm not a TikToker. It was really just for my friends and family to see.
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"The reaction online has been kind of hurtful. There's been a lot of negative comments telling me I'm ungrateful. I'm the furthest from ungrateful as I've lost a lot of pregnancies. I'm so happy to have this. It's also been good that thousands of mom have said 'the same thing happened to me' and that they cried.
"It hurts for a couple of seconds because you envision something that isn't going to happen anymore. But once everything's settled, I know this was what's meant to be and that's what the other mom's say too, that they had a vision but now they wouldn't change anything for the world. I'm going to love every second of it. I love every second of my children and I wouldn't change anything."
Names changed on request of family.
If you have been affected by this story, advice and support can be found at the Miscarriage Association. You can call them on 01924 200799 or email info@miscarriageassociation.org.uk
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