When you're attending a wedding, there's usually a dress code and everyone wants to look their best – but one woman was so shocked by the maid of honour's demands, she considered backing out of being a bridesmaid.
She said she and the bride were "not close" and they used to work together years ago, but she had a feeling her friend was "struggling" for numbers – so when she was asked to be in the wedding party she gladly accepted the invitation. However, she soon regretted it.
The woman said the run-up to the wedding had caused her "nothing but stress" and the maid of honour had been "horrid" to her – she and the mother of the bride had even been sending "nasty messages."
Taking to Mumsnet, she asked whether it would be unreasonable to pull out of the wedding as she was sick of the drama. "I have had nasty messages from both the maid of honour and the mother of the bride. They are dictating things even down to the colour of my toenails", the woman explained.
She explained the whole thing had cost her and her partner £2,600, which is "a lot of money" considering they're "currently saving for a house".
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She admitted she cancelled on the hen do and was forced to send "£50 for a contribution to food", despite the fact she wasn't going to be there – because she was in "hospital with the stress of everything".
The woman said the messages she'd "received [...] about nail colour" had "tipped her over the edge" to the point where she "didn't "care" about losing her friendship with the bride.
"I can get £2,200 back and put it in my house deposit pot", she shared, asking: "Am I being unreasonable to cancel my holiday and not be a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding?"
Commenters sympathised with the woman, saying that it sounded "awful" and was "unlikely to get any better".
One wrote: "Tell bride you are sick in hospital and are quite unwell, and that you wanted to let her know as soon as possible that you won’t be in a position to travel come September [when the wedding is taking place].
"You really apologise for pulling out of the wedding and hope she has a beautiful day. Then leave all of the bridesmaid group chats, mute and archive all of their contacts."
Someone else echoed their sentiment, penning: "Cancel ... if the stress before the wedding is enough to put you in hospital I hate to think what could happen during the wedding.
"Send a polite letter, or message (whatever is your normal style of communication) explaining that due to serious health issues and recent treatment in hospital, you are no longer able to attend the wedding."
Another said: "Send the message asap and feel the relief wash over you. Your health is really more important and these aren't people you'll miss."
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