Choosing a baby name is an exciting moment in every parent's life - but there always seems to be someone who tries to involve themselves in the special process. That's exactly what one mum-to-be came to learn when her mother-in-law started sending her three to four name suggestions per week throughout her pregnancy.
To make matters worse, she demanded the child be named after her - and refused to take no for an answer when the 27-year-old politely turned down her idea. She said on Reddit: "My husband, 28, and I are soon to be first-time parents. It’s a very exciting time for us and we are both the 'babies' in our family. We both have big families and plenty of nieces and nephews. My mother-in-law is excited as our baby will be her first granddaughter.
"We have already chosen a first name, and are still debating on a middle name. My mother-in-law is insistent that we incorporate her first or middle name into our baby's middle name. We never promised or even mentioned that we would do this, yet three to four times a week she sends suggestions that she would like."
She told her mother-in-law if she was going to name her daughter after anybody, it would be her own mother, especially because her child already has her husband's surname. However, this didn't go down well, with her adding: "She acted very offended, but has a habit of doing so to get her way. Luckily my husband is on my side, and has made it clear she will not be very involved in our kid's life."
Seeking advice, she has asked users how she should handle her overbearing mother-in-law without starting an argument. She added: "My question to you all is - how do I go about reinforcing this to her? Although I've told her multiple times she still doesn't seem to understand and I’m having a tougher time keeping things nice. I don't want to get more texts with name suggestions and I think it’s extremely tacky to ask someone to name their kid after them."
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Commenting on her post, one user said: "Good for you for staying strong on the name. My oldest is named after my ex-father-in-law (and his name used to be my least favorite name ever, but now I love it because it suits him so well) and my youngest after my ex-husband. I would never even dream of naming a kid after my self-absorbed ex-mother-in-law. My mum? Absolutely. She's amazing. But my ex-mother-in-law? Gross. No."
Another user added: "Your husband needs to tell his mother clearly 'We are choosing our own name for our child, and it will not include any part of your name. Please do not bring it up again. Each time you do, we will add one week to the date you get to meet our baby'. Do not tell anyone the name you have chosen until after your baby is born and the name is finalised on the birth certificate."
A third user said: "My mother-in-law kept pestering us about incorporating her maiden name into our baby's name despite us telling her multiple times that we weren’t doing honor names. Even the day he was born she couldn't set it aside and be happy for us. She’s your husband's mother, so she’s your husband’s problem. He needs to communicate to her that the subject is closed. If she chooses to bring it up again, the conversation/visit will be over."
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