After splitting from her husband 10 years ago Arabella Weir’s first thought was she should sign up to Tinder and get a boyfriend.
But the Two Doors Down actress took a step back and decided to embrace being celibate and enjoying being with her friends and family instead. Now Arabella says the best thing about turning 60 has been the loss of her rampant libido. She said: “Losing my sex drive has got to have been the best thing that’s ever happened to me after my children; it’s brilliant. It’s like being unchained from a maniac.”
“I was very promiscuous, I loved having sex and I loved the feeling of boys fancying me and reeling them in. Looking back a hefty amount of that must have been trying to feel loved, but a lot of it was also very nice sex and that was great. But now I don’t want a f**k and I couldn’t give a f**k.”
The 65-year-old was previously married to Jeremy Norton, ten years her junior, whom she met when she was 37. The couple tied the knot in 1993 and had two children together, but separated in 2013. Speaking to the Kaye Adams How to be 60 podcast, Arabella said: “When I was divorced in my mid-50s, the first thing I thought was: ‘I’ve got to get a boyfriend and I’ve got to go on Tinder.’ And then I thought: ‘what if I don’t?’
“I was still up for a bit of sex at that time, but I thought again. I was a financially independent person, with a lot of great friends, so for me there was never a question of being lonely. But I suddenly thought: ‘do I really want to do this again?’” Arabella, who plays Two Doors Down’s Beth Baird and starred as Aggie in Coronation Street earlier this year, also revealed she had endured an unhappy childhood with her parents, former British diplomat Michael Scott Weir and his wife Alison.
'I never share a bed with my husband - it keeps our sex life spicy'Her parents were both Scottish, but she was born in San Francisco, before moving to Washington DC, Cairo and Bahrain due to her father’s work. “She was my mother because she gave birth to me, but in no way shape or form was she a mother. She literally hadn’t got a clue and didn’t care.
“My parents split when I was eight. I said: ‘what’s for supper?’ and my mother went: ‘how the f**k should I know?’ She was posh and very well educated and she had money but she was mentally ill. If you said something like: ‘where’s the loo paper?’ she’d say: ‘why would anyone ask me?’ My father worked abroad. He was very ambitious and very successful and he wasn’t interested in his children.
“They were always going on about me being too fat and not pretty enough – my parents would say that explicitly. I was sexually assaulted a couple of times when I was a kid and by the second time, I knew my dad would say what my mother said - you must have done something to make that happen. I would have loved to have known what it was like to have protective parents.”
Comedy legend Arabella, made her name in The Fast Show, alongside co-stars Paul Whitehouse, Charlie Higson and John Thomson. But she says her parents took no pride in her successful TV career. She told Kaye Adams: “It would be taking the p**s mainly. It would be: ‘that Paul Whitehouse is great, I didn’t like your sketch.’ It was always that.”