DEAR DEIDRE: I’m so jealous of my mates and colleagues. Their lives are full of drama involving secret lovers, break-ups, threesomes and numerous risque encounters.
As a “happily married man”, I realise that’s not the sort of thing I should be coming out with.
I’m 31 and I’ve only been to bed with one woman – my wife who is 32.
I hadn’t even kissed a girl until I met my wife at university when I was 19. We met through a friend and I plucked up the courage to ask her out. Our relationship has been incredible.
We have three kids and both of us have good jobs, but I still feel there’s something missing. I’ve had strong feelings for two female colleagues but I’ve made it clear that I’m married.
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I then kick myself for cutting off any chance of having a fling with them.
One of the girls is single and in my team. She’s 29. I’ve spent time dreaming about taking her to bed.
We had to work together at an exhibition recently and I almost kissed her after a few drinks one night.
Thankfully, a nick-of-time call from my wife helped me come to my senses and I didn’t do anything.
Why do I feel as if I want to complicate my life when, from the outside, everything for me looks really perfect?
DEIDRE SAYS: There are probably many people who feel the way you do, thinking the grass is greener on the other side. It doesn’t mean it is, though.
Your peers who have played the field would probably trade places with you in an instant for a loving family life without the drama.
There’s no reason you can’t experience the thrills they do – but with your wife.
Get a babysitter and have some date nights. You can get some ideas on how to spice things up by reading my support pack, 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex.
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