DEAR DEIDRE: WEARING nylon stockings turns me on, and now I’d like to incorporate them in sex sessions with my wife.
The problem is, whenever I suggest this to her, she says no and acts like I’m a pervert.
I’m a man of 58, my wife is 55 and we’ve been married for 28 years.
For years, I’ve enjoyed secretly wearing tights and stockings while I pleasure myself.
I think donning them during sex would be the ultimate thrill.
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But she refuses, and makes me feel like I’m a dirty old man. How can I persuade her to give it a try?
DEIDRE SAYS: You cannot make someone do something sexual that they don’t want to do.
Unfortunately, your wife doesn’t share your kink. But she shouldn’t make you feel bad for having it.
It would be helpful for you both to read my support pack about Fetishes And Kinks.
If you would like to have counselling together, contact the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (cosrt.org.uk, 020 8543 2707).
