DEAR DEIDRE: I’M probably the oldest virgin who has ever written to you, but at 36 I’ve now got the chance to change all that.
And the thought of it absolutely terrifies me.
I’ve been single for a long time. I’m female and I’ve had boyfriends before but I always told them that I didn’t believe in sex before marriage.
The truth was, I never fancied these guys that much.
After seven years alone, I met a lovely guy at work. He’s 40 and our maintenance guy. I’m a school secretary.
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He’s a divorcee and he’s great. He is fun without being too loud or pushy.
We hit it off from the start. He’s keen to move our relationship into a sexual one but I’ve told him I’m just not ready for that.
Truth is, he’s the first man I’ve met I’d really like to bed but I’m scared. I don’t know what to do.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s understandable you’re worried but you’re no different from anyone else having sex for the first time.
Sex doesn’t come with a manual – you are supposed to enjoy experimenting to achieve mutual enjoyment.
Remember, this is his first time with you, so he will be keen, apprehensive even, to ensure you enjoy it.
There’s no rule saying you must have intercourse straight away either. Take your time and remember to practise safe sex.
My support pack First Time Fears will help you.
