DEAR DEIDRE: DESPITE identifying as heterosexual my entire life, I have become obsessed with transgender porn.
I’m a 29-year-old man and have a girlfriend who is 27.
We’ve been together for four years and I love her dearly.
While I have been open sexually, I always considered myself to be straight. But one day, when I was scrolling through a porn site, a video of a trans woman popped up.
I felt an urge to click on it, and to my surprise, I felt an instant burning attraction. There was something about it that made my heart go faster.
Ever since then, I haven’t stopped thinking about it, and I’m worried that if my girlfriend found out she would reject me.
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I feel so confused.
DEIDRE SAYS: For many people, sexual orientation and desire can be fluid and change over time.
So it’s important to keep an open mind when thinking about your identity.
There is no guarantee your girlfriend will accept it, but the best thing you can do is be honest.
It would be worth talking through your feelings with someone who understands.
Contact Switchboard (switchboard.lgbt, 0300 330 0630) who can put you in touch with local support groups and social networks.