All news on the topic: Dear Deidre on Identity

DEAR DEIDRE: I CHEATED on my girlfriend with my gay male best mate, and I don’t even feel guilty about it.Although I’ve never been unfaithfu

DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH I have always fancied men around my age, I have never gone through with meeting one.I am a man of 58 and have a 55-year-old wife

DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though my wider family have always been very accepting of same-sex relationships, I have spent the majority of my life being in deni

DEAR DEIDRE: WATCHING my husband stare blankly at our lawnmower for over 30 minutes was the first sign things were about to go very wrong for us.My go

DEAR DEIDRE: EVERY woman I fall for is at least ten years older than me.It feels wrong. But girls my own age don’t interest me.I’m 19 and have a m

DEAR DEIDRE: EVERYONE thinks I’m dating a man – as my girlfriend looks very masculine.She is 25, like me, and is actually gorgeous, with a sporty

DEAR DEIDRE: A SERIES of erotic dreams has freaked me out and is making me question my sexuality.It’s brought back memories of my teens, when I like

DEAR DEIDRE: As a lifelong lesbian, the last thing I ever expected was to fall in love with a man.The problem is I’m an influencer.If I publicly get

DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN’T help but wonder if I might be bisexual after a man at work has been showing me attention.I am 33 and this guy is 39. I have dat

DEAR DEIDRE: When I wrote to you I was struggling to come to terms with my sexuality.I was young, confused and terrified of the reality of being gay.I

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE discovered a stash of women’s clothing in my son’s wardrobe.He’s 23. I’m his mum and I’m 43. I had my son very young and

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER my girlfriend cheated on me with her ex boyfriend, I decided to explore my bisexual side.I’m a 32-year-old male and my ex is 30.

DEAR DEIDRE: I'M due to get married to a woman next month but I can’t stop thinking about the man I had an affair with.I know there’s no future wi

DEAR DEIDRE: MY best friend has offered to maybe have sex with me – but only if drunk.I’m a gay man who is out and have had lots of flings but the

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner has turned against me after I shared details with her of my sexual past.I am 32 and my partner is 29. We have been together fo

DEAR DEIDRE: MY mum caught me trying on her knickers –  I’m mortified. I’m an 18-year-old boy and I’ve been wearing her underwear secretly f

DEAR DEIDRE: THE fear of catching HIV is stopping me from having a gay sexual relationship.Even though I know it’s not as serious as it used to be b

DEAR DEIDRE: THE day after I told my boyfriend I was pregnant, he announced he was bisexual.I don’t understand why he waited till we were having a b

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE always been attracted to women and have had a happy relationship with one for more than five years.But I have found myself in affa

DEAR DEIDRE: EVER since my boyfriend came out as bisexual I haven’t been able to shake the nagging worry that he may actually be gay.I don’t want

DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH he’s more than 30 years older than me, I’ve fallen in love with my male friend.He’s married with kids, so I don’t know i

I’M thinking of returning to my home town because living out my other half’s retirement dream by the coast has made me feel disconnected – but m

DEAR DEIDRE: I MET a lovely woman in a club but I had no idea she was previously a man.I am 32 and had been out on a leaving do for a colleague.A grou

DEAR DEIDRE: I GAVE away thousands of pounds worth of women’s clothes and lingerie because I thought I didn’t need them any more – but after fou

DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend says he doesn’t care about my baldness.So it broke my heart when I saw all the women whose accounts he’d subscribed to,