DEAR DEIDRE: When counselling sessions revealed repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse, I felt shellshocked and I couldn’t tell anyone.
I remembered that my cousin had messed around with me when I was about 11 and he was 15. At the time I hadn’t stopped him.
I’m now a 44-year-old man, and my partner is 42.
I wrote to you, Deidre, for support. I wasn’t sure if what had happened was actually rape.
And I needed advice on whether to tell my family or partner - or even the police.
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I’m a 44-year-old man, and my partner is 42.
You told me that what had happened was indeed rape, as I was too young to consent.
You sent me your support pack, Abused as a Child, and suggested I talk through my concerns with a rape counsellor before talking to my loved ones.
Realising I’d been raped opened my eyes. I talked things through with a counsellor and then with my family and partner, who were very supportive.
I feel much stronger and more positive about the situation now, even if I can’t change the past.
Thank you Deidre.
DEIDRE SAYS: I’m pleased that you are now getting the help you need.
I hope this is the start of your healing journey.