'I don't expect much at Valentine's but my husband's card is passive aggressive'

14 February 2023 , 11:48

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She did not think it needed to be written in that way (stock photo) (Image: Getty Images/Tetra images RF)

A woman has been left feeling rather confused about her relationship after her partner of almost seven years wrote something unexpected in his Valentine's Day card to her. The woman claimed that while she does not expect anything for Valentine's, she liked the card but felt the message in his card held the wrong sentiment.

In a post online, she admitted they are going through a bit of a rough patch at the moment, as many couples do at one point or another, but she still did not think it was right for him to use his card to her to apologise 'for doing everything wrong all the time.'

She felt this was not even accurate and did not think it had the right tone for her card.

Some people felt it was passive aggressive (stock photo) (Getty Images)

Taking to Mumsnet, she added that it was a bit too negative for a Valentine's card and it did not need to be written in that way.

In the post, the woman, who remained anonymous, explained: "I don’t expect anything for Valentines at all. I bought my partner a card and made some brownies. My partner also bought me a card and said he will make me dinner this evening.

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"I don’t expect some big sentimental message. In the card it said ‘sorry I do everything wrong all the time.'"

She added that they have been arguing more lately and it is the rockiest the relationship has been.

"I’ve never once said he does everything wrong! I just feel like it's a bit negative and didn’t need to be written," she explained.

In response, many have sided with her and said the message actually comes off less apologetic and more passive-aggressive. But others have seen it from his side and suggested it could be him trying to open up a frank conversation between them.

One person wrote: "Sounds quite passive-aggressive of him. Is he usually like that?"

While another stated: "Wow. That's a passive-aggressive thing to do. Certainly doesn't sound like any kind of genuine apology. And to put it in a valentine's card."

But a third saw his perspective and said: "I think it's an apology. Trying to start again?"

And a fourth penned: "Maybe it's an olive branch. Whatever it is, sounds like you both need to try to find some way to mend what's going wrong."

Freddie Bennett