DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE I told my girlfriend I am HIV positive, she has been pushing me away.
I understand that this is a lot to take in, but I can’t help but worry that I’m going to lose her over this.
She’s 54, I’m 56 and we’ve been together for six months.
I was diagnosed 30 years ago but my viral load is undetectable because of my medication, so it’s impossible for me to pass it on.
Because of this, I decided to hold back from telling my girlfriend until I felt the time was right.
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The last thing I wanted was to scare her off. I know how it can sound.
When I finally came clean to her I felt as if a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, but I could instantly see how worried she was.
I did everything to reassure her, but she told me she felt betrayed.
Ever since she’s become distant and has avoided sex at all costs.
The last thing I want is to lose her, but I’m worried sick that it’s already happened.
DEIDRE SAYS: There’s still a lot of fear and lack of understanding around HIV. Your girlfriend is more than likely scared and unsure how to process the news.
Keep talking to her and suggest you visit your doctor together so she can ask any questions. If she’s the right person for you, she’ll come around.
My support pack Looking After Your Relationship can help you navigate this time.
